Using a kinda lame hack I got it working. At first I used a hardware serial and put wires from pin 0 to pin 9 and pin 1 to pin 6. This unfortunately wastes 2 pins, but works as a shield. Next I tried using 4 wires to connect to the pins on the side, which also works and doesn't waste a pin, but then its not an arduino shield. Here is a pic of the first option:

Sorry for bad pic - my phone has a terrible camera. Well I basically used some macros in the library to allow only AVRs and the Arduino DUE to use pins 6 and 9 for a softwareserial, and the others use Serial1. If they don't have Serial1... Well that's what I will have to figure out also.

This probably works great for ESPs, but I can't test it on them! My ESP can't be programmed without a special FTDI cable that I don't have! Great win though, very encouraging. Oh yea, here is the first set of beefy macros I ever made, the ones for the NMT_GFX arduino library: