I finally put together my second board for this tonight.  The assembly went a bit better due to better temperature control on my hot plate as well as use of my new video microscope, but my decision to add flux during the reflow wasn't my best, as it left the board a bit sticky.  This one programmed up quickly and ran my touch test code, and it has a much better chance of blinking LEDs because I managed to get all of them to solder on correctly.

My coding tasks are currently:

1. Fix touch code to reset state so I can read individual buttons
2. Blink the two LEDs hooked to the touch sensor chip
3. Send some test IR codes to my TV

Alas, due to having a busy job and busy kids, my hacking time for getting this code up and running has been limited.